What Should I Do During My Divorce / Family Law Case?

During a divorce or family law case you should live by the golden rule—“treat others as you would like to be treated.” You should always treat your spouse how you would like to be treated, because what goes around eventually comes around and anything you may do to upset the spouse in the case may eventually be turned around if you are put in a similar situation. During the case you do not necessarily have to be cordial or friendly, but you should be respectful and act civilized. If you were living together prior to filing for divorce and you have children continue to live life status quo. This means continue to live in the same residence as this will be considered in the child’s best interest until the divorce is finalized.

If you believe that there is emotional damage being done or there has been a past history of emotional abuse consider counseling for your emotions to avoid unnecessary fighting or added conflict. If conflict does occur pause before making unwanted impulsive responses and respond not out of anger or frustration –think with a collective legal mind. If abuse is present do not allow for the children to witness the event if possible and try to remove yourself from the situation by walking away. If at any time there is a situation that is an emergency or you feel threatened remove yourself and contact emergency services (911) for immediate relief.

How Can I Know If What I am Doing is Wrong?

It is possible to consult a divorce and family law attorney with major legal decisions during a case and receive legal feedback; however, there are some small decisions that must be made on daily stuff that may involve the spouse that can create large legal issues. For smaller legal issues or daily questions it is often times impossible to contact the attorney regarding concerns or may run up large bills. Also smaller legal issues have a tendency to snowball into larger issues overtime if not dealt with appropriately.

If you feel as if you are having issues with determining what may be right or wrong in your legal case but cannot consult with an attorney due to the matters being daily or over burdensome talk with your lawyer about hiring a life coach. Your attorney may refer you to a life coach used by their practice or you may need to select a life coach that is experienced in clientele that is experiencing family law disputes. A life coach can teach you more appropriate ways to handle spousal conflict and give advice as to ways to control negative or unwanted responses. A life coach may also provide testimony during proceedings concerning your character, disposition, and if they believe emotional or anger management issues to be present.